Anti-body positivity on Tumblr

I can’t deal with so called plus size bloggers loathing about not being thin or small enough. I understand losing weight for health reasons, that’s your choice and right. But sitting there reblogging pics of smaller women talking about “Omg her body” is not where it’s at.

Anti-body positivity is triggering for me in many ways, and it’s annoying to see plus size/curvy women complaining about their body talking about their”Weight loss” journey. Like if you’re happy and healthy at the size you are, and have been preaching to your followers about loving your curves and being curvy then no I don’t empathize with you. It’s people like you who make it hard for people like me because we already don’t have a leg in this dog against fat shaming and hatred and now you want to make yourself apart of that group?

I make sure I unfollow any plus size/curvy blogger who promotes weight loss, anti-body positivity or any other trigger anti-size acceptance nonsense.

3 Reasons Why The “Cheating Scandal” On The Biggest Loser Is AWESOME

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This week, millions of Americans tuned in to the Biggest Loser show on NBC to be treated to a few surprises beyond the formulaic , publicly sanctioned, fat shaming that they usually expect.  For one thing, First Lady Michelle Obama along with White House Chef and Director of the Let’s Move! campaign Sam Kass made an appearance to promote the Drink Up and Let’s Move! programs.  This was unfortunate timing for those of us who are advocates working to combat weight stigma as that was also the day that I, along with Binge Eating Disorder Association Founder and CEO, Chevese Turner met with Let’s Move! staff to discuss our concerns about this “potential” appearance in the first place.  It wasn’t until we were in the meeting that we found out the Biggest Loser appearance was indeed happening, as a matter of fact it would be airing THAT DAY and our efforts to petition the First Lady not to appear had failed.  The White House, to their credit, allowed us to discuss why we would like to dissuade her from future appearances and they took the time to really listen to our concerns – thank you Let’s Move!.

Of all the concerns that Chevese and I expressed, the unsustainable lifestyle the participants are engaged in, the misinformation about how to safely and effectively reach health goals, the mistreatment and fat shaming that the show promotes within our culture… none of these will be as effective an argument against future appearances as was served up by the show itself.  The winning reason not to go on TBL?  I guarantee you that it has to do with CHEATING.

As it so happens, trainer Jillian Michaels was called out after having been caught providing her team with caffeine supplements, which is a big NO-NO!  When allowed to comment on her strategy, her response was nothing short of (I’m  doing the evil overlord, hand wringing thing here…) MAGICAL!  Michaels said everything absolutely right – her moment to shine ‘as a professional’ let it slip that this show is NOT about health as so many people like to claim, this show is about sensationalism and weight loss AT ANY COST.

Though I’m certain Michaels was not trying to make my point for me, her statement, “Caffeine supplements are significantly healthier than unlimited amounts of coffee.  My only regret is that my team, they are the ones suffering the consequences of my professional opinion” does just that several times over.

UN-Healthy Weight Loss – “Caffeine supplements are significantly healthier than unlimited amounts of coffee”

IF a person is working to attain a permanent reduction in weight (a complex issue in and of itself) caffeine supplements or massive amounts of coffee do not support long term results nor are they healthy.  Anyone old enough to know what ‘speed’ is knows, caffeine to lose weight is a bad choice no ifs ands or buts.  NOT HEALTHY.

Professional Opinion – What????  What on earth is she talking about.  If she’s qualified to guide people into living healthier lives then why does she condone stigmatizing people, whether in her own ‘team’ or as a general rule.

The way she mentally and emotionally abuses the TBL contestants is notorious and one of the main reasons why people watch the show.  You only need read through the Tuesday night #BiggestLoser Twitter feeds to see the voyeuristic bloodlust fans share when watching her “tear them apart”.  She may be certified to work on weight machines and to develop muscle groups but her “professional” everything stops right there because she has not made the connection that good health (if we’re fooling ourselves back into the theory that TBL actually has anything to DO with health) involves a balance of movement, nutrition and mental wellbeing.

Perspective – This is a game and as such, there are rules to be followed.  In this case however, the game is playing with the health of the contestants and by cheating, Michaels did more than take unfair advantage of a situation, she put the health of her team at risk.  She showed unequivocally that to win by any means is paramount and to do so she is willing to compromise people’s lives – living, breathing, vulnerable, trusting, hopeful lives.

The fact is that the true impetus of the show is sensationalism, fat bashing, weight based bullying weight loss and NOT health management and lifestyle support.  We KNOW this, whether we choose to accept it, that’s apparently another story, however, by being called out for cheating with supplements, this loss of perspective is easy to identify.  In other words, messing with the long term wellbeing – physical, emotional and mental – of people is complex to track but being caught ‘doping’ is a quick and easily identifiable crossing of the line.

Whether or not you are engaged in the nuanced conversation about weight stigma, there is no doubt that you understand the concept of cheating.  We all do and we all know it’s wrong.  We were taught this lesson as children and we hold cheaters in low esteem.  We see them as weak and unable to control their impulses to win at any cost rather than compete fairly with others.  And in games as well as politics, nobody wants to be associated with a cheater.

So thank you Jillian Michaels for your unvarnished truth.  The viewers, as well as the Office of the First Lady, can have no doubt about the intent or the character of the show.  It’s a rare day when the opposing team makes my arguments for me but you did an eloquent and concise job!

http://bingebehavior.com/3-reasons-cheating-scandal-biggest-loser-awesome#.Uo9dXtKGyvM

What Kids Hear About Fat

Credit: iStockphoto/Nick Schlax

I’ve been hearing a lot of cranky comments lately about “…it’s for their own good” and “…they need to suck it up and get a thicker skin” as it relates to the ‘right’ to comment on the size or shape of a stranger’s body.  While I have very strong feelings about the inappropriateness of these comments, when they are made about children I find that I must swallow my anger and grip as tightly as I can to my long held belief that education and proximity can overcome reactionary convenience (read, SNARK).

Here’s the premise that I’m working off of in order to make my point.  Kids are vulnerable because they 1. Want to be accepted if not loved; 2. Have a basic understanding of the information they’ve been surrounded by, and 3. Hear more than we give them credit for.

With those tenets in place, and assuming that this is not a conversation about intentional psychological abuse, this is a good place to remind adults who are speaking about “fat kids” and the “obesity epidemic rampant in our schools” that the people who feel the most hurt when hearing scary and negative phrases like that, are our kids.  The one’s we’re talking ‘about’ thought not ‘to’.

Regardless of how you or I feel about the overall health of the younger generation, before we espouse our views, let’s (and I mean ‘let us ALL’ – myself included) make it really personal.  Instead of thinking about kids as a generic set of “others”, think of kid – your kid, your nephew, your niece, and ask yourself what they hear when they hear the words “fat” and “obese” and compound those feelings with phrases like “war on” and “outside of acceptable limits”.

My work within the world of advocacy and weight stigma has given me access to many reputable, amazing and hard working experts in the field of weight stigma and body acceptance.  During this last quarter organizing the Weight Stigma Awareness Week campaign for the Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA), I was lucky enough to work closely with experts specializing in the area of children and weight stigma.  Featured contributors included Marci Warhaft-Nadler, author of The Body Image Survival Guide for Parents: Helping Toddlers, Tweens and Teens ThriveDr. Rebecca Puhl, Deputy Director of the Rudd Center for Food Policy and Obesity at Yale UniversityNancy Matsumoto, author of The Parent’s Guide to Eating Disorders: Supporting Self-Esteem, Healthy Eating and Positive Body Image at Home, and Dayle Hayes, MS, RD, Advocate and President of Nutrition for the Future to name a few.

One of the consistent themes that I ran across speaks to the fact that children associate some of the worst possible personality traits and social outcomes with the words “fat” and “obese”.  Today, the younger generation no longer thinks of fat as simply a descriptor for shape or a biological substance, they equate it to lazy, bad, evil, uneducated, unacceptable and unlovable.  When they hear “fat” they do not hear that a person is fat shaped, they hear that a person is unworthy of respect and acceptance, consequently if they think they are “fat, they believe those same negative things about themselves.

Many studies demonstrate just how children connect these dots, one of which is a 2008 report from the collaborative partnership between Girlguiding, the leading charity for girls and young women in the UK (similar to Girlscouts or Brownies in the US) and Beat, the UK’s leading charity supporting people affected by eating disorders and which campaigns on their behalf.  The report was titled ‘Under 10 and Under Pressure’, and it looked at the influence of views about weight and shape on young girls aged 7, 8 and 9.

According to Susan Ringwood, Chief Executive at Beat, “Small groups of Brownies were shown line drawing of girls who represented their age, but in a range of sizes. The range wasn’t extreme, but did vary from slender to large.  The Brownies were asked to talk about these girls, and say what sort of person they were likely to be.

The drawings which depicted girls who were the most slender were unanimously described as happy, healthy, good at sports, someone to be friends with, and successful at school.  The girls who were shown as larger were described as unhappy, lazy, bullied, not someone to be friends with and no good at sports.

The Brownies were 7 years old and they already knew that the size and shape of your body alone told the world what sort of person you are. They had internalized those weight stigmatizing messages that surround us daily.”

There are many more studies available for review however; this is an especially interesting outcome as the children giving the feedback were also participants in a socially empowering organization focused on teaching children to value others by their actions rather than their appearance.  Evidently the comments we are making are overpowering the messages we are trying to send.  Children are HEARING and absorbing the message that fat is unacceptable and if a person is fat, they in turn, must have a harder life.

If the ‘takeaway’ information from our comments is that fat is negative in every possible way, what does the child who is told they are fat think?  Additionally, in a growing body, being “healthy” is more complex than size, shape or BMI.  The reality is, the random comment assessing the overall health of another person is based more in judgment than fact and those comments are harmful – not just annoying or hurtful, but that they are actual eating disorder causing, malnutrition inducing, body acceptance diminishing harmful.

Do we assume that children are capable of constructing the argument that they ‘have the substance fat on their body, which may or may not be a healthy part of their overall body composition because weight, especially in children is incredibly complex’?  Or do we find it more likely that the child thinks, ‘I AM fat.  I AM the embodiment of the negative things I associate with fat.  I am not good and I am not worthy of respect and acceptance.’?  Considering children have a limited set of experiences to work with, black and white thinking is the tendency, meaning the equation of ‘you are fat = you are bad’ is generally how their minds work and how their minds work to solve it.  Fat comes from food so I’ll stop eating a variety of healthy foods, or I’ll exert my only form of control and NOT eat.

So now, without belaboring the point, and with the hope that this is a quick reminder that ‘the fat kids’ isn’t a nebulous group that can’t hear you and whom you don’t profoundly affect, lets (again, this is not a sermon, this is encouragement for ALL of us) consider whether saying the unkind phrase or having righteous indignation toward a gathering of children is the best way to make the change you want to see.

Keeping in mind that we sell a good many programs, products and concepts by invoking “the next generation”, maybe treating them  with kindness and meeting them intellectually ‘where they’re at’  is more in line with our true feelings than waging war or causing them to develop that “thicker skin” that speaking about them carelessly can cause.

http://bingebehavior.com/kids-hear-fat#.Uo9dH9KGyvO

Why can’t we just accept curvy and fat bodies on women? That’s why there are no more happy fat bloggers!

The women above are models, both are considered thick/curvy plus size.

Like how hard is it to do? Showcase healthy bodies that have curves and are plus size? What’s gonna happen? The world will stop spinning? We’ll all die? We’ll be sucked into a black hole, I mean what are we afraid of representing fuller bodies within mainstream spaces? Scared we’ll lose consumers? That funny since most consumers male and female fit these descriptions.

Recently I have unfollowed a lot of plus size fashion blogs because of the triggering weight loss talk they’ve been bombarded with now. Seeing pictures and photo memes of them talking about how much weight they’ve lost, seeing women who promoted fit and thick becoming more obsessed with fit and thin.Like they’re giving in the to defeat, there are very little strong minded plus size activist anymore. This is what shame and bullying due to people. It causes them to conform and submit hiding their true selves. It’s so annoying and it seems like it’s growing. The plan has worked, congrats fat shamers and society you’re slowly eradicating fat bodies, specifically fat women. Are you happy now? Probably not.

I’ve seen larger people become thin and say they feel guilty and ashamed because they are not truly comfortable with their new bodies as it’s not what they really want to be. They were happy and content with the bodies they were in before, before falling victim to the pressure and mental abuse suffered for being of size. It’s not who they really are, it really wasn’t who they wanted to be, and it’s a constant mental battle and tug of war for them.

Body/weight shaming women is also a form of transphobia. Most transgender women are not going to be dainty, petite and small. So not only do we alienate an entire group of women, we also alienate another group. Serena Williams a biologically born female is often subjected to transphobic comments about her body and frame calling her “Manly” because she has muscle and size to her body along with a large backside and bust.

How hard is it to put larger healthy women on runways? I don’t buy that “human clothes hanger” excuse. The excuse made to hide their discrimination against larger women. They have said the reason there are no plus size models is because it’s harder to make larger sizes right off the bat and put it on the runways. That doesn’t even make any sense since there are a variety of sizes hanging up on clothes hangers in stores.

When these designers make these clothes they cut out the fabric, measure it and begin sowing, I doubt even thin models can fit clothing that free handed and not measured since the human skeleton has mass and density too. That bull crap. It’s because they only want thinner models, they believe it makes them look good, makes us as a society look good when we try to prove to people how thin and beautiful we are.

I’ve seen people complain about Victoria’s Secret models becoming thinner…

1990’s- early 2000’s Victoria’s Secret models

These are the models now:

Why is this okay? But showcasing plus size models who are beautiful, just as sexy body wise and talented is the hardest thing in the world?

Exhibit A, plus size lingerie models:

They have rolls, they have bellies, they have big thighs, breasts and bottocks, they have soft stomachs AND IT’S BEAUTIFUL! Just as beautiful as the defined muscles, and abs on the thinner models.

Thin women are beautiful too, I don’t shame thin women. A lot of the beauty gurus I look up to are thin women. But it’s about equality. No matter how many studies show that a variety of men like a variety of women, we still choose to showcase only one type. And yes THEY DO IT ON PURPOSE.

DO YOU CARE ABOUT MY HEALTH, OR JUST THINK I’M GROSS? BE HONEST.

DO YOU CARE ABOUT MY HEALTH, OR JUST THINK I’M GROSS? BE HONEST.

Hi. I’m fat. I’m what most people call an in-betweenie—I have a heavy build, I wear plus sizes, my stomach poofs out, I have folds of fat along my back, I have chubby arms and legs. I can still buy clothes off the rack at a lot of stores, though.

Don’t rush to tell me I’m not ‘that kind’ of fattie or you’re ‘not talking about [me]‘ when you’re going on about how much you worry for fat people, though. We all know that you’re thinking of me, that when you think of fat people, my double chin comes to mind, my wobbling upper arms, my thighs broad in my jeans, my big ass. I’m fat. It’s okay. You can say it. I don’t have a problem with it.

I have a lot of issues with my body, but my size isn’t really one of them. It is what it is. The reasons I’m fat are complicated and not really your business. And yeah, I am unhealthy, and the reasons for that aren’t your business either, although I know you want to rush to assume that I’m unhealthy because I’m fat.

I don’t have an obligation to be healthy, actually, and I don’t have an obligation to rush to assure you that I’m a ‘good fatty’ with great cholesterol and good scores on other health indicators allegedly related to weight. I don’t have an obligation to tell you that fat isn’t correlated with health because I shouldn’t have to justify the existence of fat people by informing you that you don’t understand how fat bodies work, and you’re not familiar with the latest studies on fatness, morbidity and mortality, health indicators, and social trends.

Because fat people have a right to exist, healthy or unhealthy, and this whole argument about health is a red herring. It suggests that if only fat people could prove that fat and health aren’t coupled, they’d be okay. Society is justconcerned for us—worried that we’ll be felled too soon, taking our glorious minds into the ground with us to rot, all because we were fat and we refused to take personal responsibility for our fatness.

Here’s the thing, though: fat people have a right to exist, no matter what their health status is, and their health status is both not your business and not evidence to be used when determining whether they should be found wanting. Fatness is just a characteristic, one with which many people have a complex relationship because it’s socially loaded. Your judgement about fat has not been requested, nor is it required.

Let me tell you something about being fat: we know we’re fat, okay? We are in fact aware of the size noted in the tags of our clothes, we know how we occupy furniture. Sometimes we crack jokes about being fat because, well, sometimes being fat is funny. Sometimes being fat is fun. Sometimes we know people feel uncomfortable because we’re fat and we want to set them at ease. Sometimes we feel tremendous pressure to get people to treat us like human beings so we play the jolly fat person role to make ourselves into someone you have to engage with, rather than an object you can loathe.

And we spend our whole lives being told that everyone is worried for us. Don’t we know fat is unhealthy? Aren’t we worried about dying early? Have we talked to a doctor about our fat? Have we considered diet and exercise? How will you ever find a partner? You aren’t actually the first person to ask us any of these questions, and you probably won’t be the last. Because the thing is, when you’re fat, you know, your body seems to become part of the public commons, something for everyone to comment on. You are no longer yourself, an autonomous person who is allowed to drift through the world doing your own thing.

Here’s the thing: I think, between you and me, that you can drop the facade. You’re not worried about my health. If the health of strangers was a valid concern for you, you’d be more careful about where you blew your cigarette smoke. You wouldn’t have almost run down that skateboarder waiting to cross the curb. You’d help that poor woman struggling to load those heavy sacks of chicken scratch at the feed store. You’d cover your mouth when you cough to reduce the spread of infectious organisms.

This isn’t about my health as an individual, about your concerns for what society might lose if I drop dead. This is about the fact that you think I’m kind of gross. It’s okay. You can say it. You’re socialised to think that fat people are disgusting, to find my fat rolls hideous. You’re taught to cringe at the sight of my belly jiggling in a tight shirt, to believe that double chins are ugly and unpleasant to look at.

You’re taught that people like me are slow and stupid, that we don’t deserve to be treated like human beings. You’re taught that fat, on its own, is intrinsically, inherently bad. It takes a lot of work to overcome social conditioning, and often people try to dodge their conditioning by hiding it with something else. You want to tell me that you don’t care about my weight, you’re just ‘concerned.’

But you do care about my weight. My weight is the problem. I’m fat. That upsets you. The fact that I don’t care that I’m fat and don’t particularly care what you think about my fat upsets you even more. I’m breaking the rules. I’d say I’m sorry, but I’m not.

Be honest with yourself, if no one else: you’re bothered by fatness because it disgusts you, not because you’re worried for the health of your fellow humans. Now push yourself a little harder, please: why does fat disgust you?

http://meloukhia.net/2013/10/do_you_care_about_my_health_or_just_think_im_gross_be_honest/

Inside The Horrifying World Of Online Fat-Shaming

Caitlin Seida knows all about cruelty on the Internet.

 

She first dealt with cyberbullying in middle school. Social media was a new beast back then — people used Livejournal and Myspace, not Facebook and Instagram — but teens learned quickly that lashing out at someone from behind the glowing pixels of a computer screen was easier than doing it face-to-face, but could cut your target just as bad.

Caitlin and her mother went to the police during a particularly brutal online-harassment campaign, but the cops had no precedent: They didn’t know what to do or how to stop it. The best advice they gave her then was to just stay off the Internet.

Flash-forward to January of 2013. Caitlin was 24. She had shaken off the shackles of her middle school torture. The Internet wasn’t scary anymore. She liked social media and used Facebook to connect with friends — chatting, posting, and uploading pictures, just like everybody else.

But one morning she woke up to a startling message from a friend: “You’re Internet famous.”

Caitlin followed a link to a Web page dedicated to mocking people’s appearances. And there it was: her image – a picture snapped several Octobers before, when she had dressed up as Lara Croft for Halloween. But instead of “Tomb Raider,” someone had plastered “Fridge Raider” across the photo. And that wasn’t the worst part. When Caitlin started scrolling through the comments, she broke down.

 

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Caitlin Seida

 

 

People called her a heifer, a waste of space, and said that she should kill herself. Didn’t she know that people her size were not allowed to dress up as sexy video game characters?

The picture had quickly spread to Reddit, FailBlog, 9Gag, Tumblr, 4Chan, and more, always trailing with it the same slew of hateful, fat-shaming slime.

Once again, Caitlin was a victim of cyberbullying, but this time, “just staying off the Internet” wasn’t an option. And the harassment felt different than the personal attacks of her past.

“People didn’t think before they posted those comments,” Seida told Business Insider. “They didn’t think, ‘This is a real person.’ They didn’t think, ‘Oh, she’ll see this.’”

Caitlin’s experience — of finding a photo of herself meme-ified for the  sake of a fat shaming joke — is not isolated. If you’ve made the rounds on Reddit or any meme site, chances are you’ve seen other examples of fat shaming posts. 

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One of the more popular fat-shaming meme pics.

 

 

There are, generally, two kinds of Internet cruelty: the throw-away kind where people might add a mean joke to a meme or Reddit comment thread and then move on to the next distraction, and then the kind where it’s clear that there’s a concentrated effort to affect someone’s life.

Fat shaming is unique because, at its heart, it encompasses both.

Fat shaming is one of the last socially acceptable forms of discrimination. It’s easier to recognize overt sexism or racism and many of sizeism’s most blatant manifestations slip into the mainstream. 

Generally, we as a society think it’s OK to make fat people the target of jokes, judgment, and health interventions. Fat shaming often arises out of the guise of concern. The rationale is: Fat people have greater health risks so highlighting how fat someone is is a way to help them realize that their size is dangerous for them. 

Take this ad campaign from Georgia’s Strong 4 Life which plastered pictures of chubby kids with messages meant to inspire an end to childhood obesity. The campaign was controversial, and many people — with leadership from the National Association To Advance Fat Acceptance—asserted that the ads did more harm than good because they were, in essence, merely shaming the children for how they looked. Strong 4 Life’s intention was to serve as a “wake up call,” but fat people tend to know they’re fat.

 

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www.strong4life.com

These ads were part of the “Stop Child Obesity” campaign in Georgia.

 

 

Plus, a study published earlier this year, proved that weight discrimination and stigmatization like the kind in the ad doesn’t motivate people to lose weight: It actually increases the risk for obesity. 

Sizeism in the workplace has increased by 66%  over the last few decades, thanks to some general stereotypes about fat people: To gain so much weight, they must be lazy, greedy, unmotivated, and have poor self-discipline. As blogger Lindy West writes: “Fat people in America are reduced to nothing but fatness.”

Another recent example of mainstream fat-shaming came with the coverage of crack-smoking Toronto Mayor Rob Ford. Yes, the guy was a jerk, but Gawker’s article, 39 Breathtaking Photos of North America’s Most Photogenic Mayor, focuses on only one thing: How fat Ford is.

Although some of the article’s commenter’s pointed out how messed up the premise of the story was (“I mean, I hate the guy as much as anyone, but is fat shaming him really necessary?”), others played right into it (in regards to a picture of Ford with The Hamburglar: “These 2 men are responsible for 65% of the world’s hamburger consumption”).

In one of the grossest fat-shaming examples of late, Return of Kings “a blog for heterosexual, masculine men” with some Red Pill tendencies, started #fatshamingweek on Twitter last month. The hate campaign generated the absolute worst kinds of fat-shaming comments

 

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The only upside was that the widely publicized debacle got people talking about fat shaming more openly and furious body acceptance advocates tried to take over the hashtag to squelch the voices of the shamers.

“It’s no one’s job to defend themselves as being worthy of existence,” vlogger Meghan Tonjes said in a video response to fat-shaming week. “You’re making the world worse. Stop.”

Just like #fatshamingweek produced some good, Caitlin wanted to create something beautiful out of her traumatizing experience. 

Caitlin and her friend started a blog called I Feel Delicious after Caitlin received an overwhelmingly positive response to an article she published on Salon about the “fridge raider” meme. Her blog enters the realm of others that are trying to tackle the fat-shaming epidemic, including Stop Hating Your Body and Smile, Sizeist!, which targets people who publicly ridicule someone for their size.

“Sometimes it seems like the Internet solely exists to criticize, analyze, or put people down. And I don’t jive with that,” Caitlin says. “We want to create this group of empowered women to break down that self-esteem barrier that seems to be present on the Internet.”

Because, ultimately, Caitlin believes that the perpetrators of fat shaming do so because of a rooted self-hatred. Because targeting someone online — whether a classmate, peer, or complete-and-utter stranger — for their size or the way they look? Well, there’s really only one person who is ugly in that situation.

Read more: http://www.businessinsider.com/virtual-fat-shaming-2013-11#ixzz2lDLgLtZE

Growing level of fat hatred even shows in former fat people

It’s scary. Saw this posted on Tumblr…

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Terrifying and sort of gives you the feeling of defeat. Like what else do we do? What else works?

But this is what fat shaming does. This is what size discrimination does. See this? This is supposedly a former fattie, someone who identified with “Health At Every Size”, supposedly did the research on healthy fat bodies and fat body rights. This what happens when fat people conform. They shed their oppressed exterior and their shamed, abused, and battered interior surfaces. This is the result you get. The remains of a person who was fat shamed, abused, bullied and socially alienated. A lot of the things she’s saying are the very things her oppressors told her when she was a fat person.

If people who indentified with fat hates you then what are you to do? But this is why ” This Is Thin Privilege” exists. It exists because the shaming, ridicule and abuse of fat people is so engraved in our psyche that we become angry, mad and verbally abusive to anything and everything fat when we’re reminded of it.

Look at the anger in her post, look at the anger in people’s comments when they see or speak about fat people. These are the same people that will try and persuade you with their “false concern”. No that’s not concern, that’s hatred, that’s insecurity, and people who’ve been taught fat is bad. These people are projecting their own fears and insecurities onto people they are suppose to be empathetic towards. These people don’t hate fat people, they hate the word fat because it’s been associated with everything bad. 

We reject any and everything we believe is bad in fear of social rejection. No one wants to be a loner in society so we conform to what we think is right out of fear. This is what happens regarding weight bullying. This happens, a prolonged mental battle between self abuse and mental abuse. If we can understand this regarding other form of discrimination and bullying, then why aren’t we doing anything about weight bullying? How is it acceptable to want to eradicate a human being? It seems perfectly logical if that human being is a fat person **smh**

It seems like it’s never ending with no end point. Models are getting thinner, the definition of fat is getting smaller, women are becoming more obessed than ever with their weight, children are coming home telling them parents they don’t want to finish their food because we’ve put inaccurate BMI programs in their schools. It’s terrible. And the worse thing about it all is that we don’t seem to care!! Michelle Obama says it’s okay if we shame and bully fat people because doctors say “Death to the fatties”. Fat bullying and discrimination is getting worse, what does it take to make it stop? Death at the hands of the abuser? Seems like that’s the only time we actually do something, is when it’s too late. 

I thought if we seen it cascading into our kids then that would draw the line, but not even that stop fat bullying. Sad. We won’t stop until we reach that plateu of anti-fat reputation and we’re in a world of beautiful thin people.